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Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.
- William James

For several years now, my husband and I have been meeting monthly with a group of married couples.  Our goal as “Married Friends” is to support each other in our decisions and commitments to be in healthy married relationships.  One topic that has come up over the years is what to do when one person is invariably “the neat one” and the other is “not-so-neat”.  This rather small issue of one person leaving their clothes on the floor or not putting their dirty dishes in the dishwasher has caused much pain in many relationships.

The neat one can feel as though the other person is being rude, disres...
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